So why do you stay in an abusive relationship?


Many people cannot see past the question as above. If you either work in this field and want an understanding of the complexity's of being in an abusive relationship, or you want an understanding of how you a formerly strong person, came to be in a relationship which has destroyed you emotionally not just physically. A brilliant book worth a read is https://www.amazon.co.uk/Charm-Syndrome-Charming-Dangerous-Lovers. This book explains how the abuser at first is often very charming. After all, how many people would continue with a relationship if on the first date they informed you of the torment and abuse you were about to embark on if you continued with the relationship? None of us right? An abuser is very manipulative and some how over time manages to get inside your head, and you feel worthless and often to blame. The book helps you understand that it is not you, you are not to blame. The book gives many examples of abuse and acknowledges that there is male to female abuse, also equally valid forms of abuse could be female to male, woman to women and men to men. The abuser always is always the controller. The book offers advice and hope. The book also gives an understanding of the different forms of abuse which could be:

  • Physical abuse

  • Sexual abuse

  • Psychological or emotional abuse

  • Financial or material abuse

  • Modern slavery

  • Discriminatory abuse

  • Organisational or institutional abuse

  • Neglect or acts of omission

  • Self-neglect

As you can see the list is extensive, many people believe that if you do not have bruises or injuries then you will not be taken seriously, this is no longer the case. If you are in an abusive relationship, and at a loss what to do, the first step could be https://www.nationaldahelpline.org.uk/ , they will help you explore your options. Legal advice will be needed, unfortunately many people cannot get legal aid within family law because of government changes, therefore if you need legal support at a third of solicitor/barrister costs contact https-//www.dhfamilyandcourtsolutions.com/ , you will be offered a free consultation and various packages according to your needs, with instalment plans if needed.


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